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Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us something about the change that happens over time.

Here is the link to the podcast.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us something about the change that happens over time.

I had an obvious and humbling reminder of this as I was playing with my grandchildren. We were on the floor together, playing with their toys, when I needed to get up to put the dog outside. I stood up, and that’s when it happened: I heard myself groan out loud. The sound of it stopped me in my tracks as I realized what it meant. I’m sure it was not the first time I groaned like that, but it was the first time that I noticed it. And that made me start thinking about all the other things that I do and the help that I need, like wearing readers or taking medicine, simply because I am aging.

You see, people, relationships, and circumstances do not remain static. They age and change over time (like me) and when they do, they require maintenance and care. In fact, experience and my counseling background have taught me that these things (people, relationships, and circumstances) tend to be either in a state of cultivation or deterioration, but not in between. They don’t stay the same, they don’t remain stagnant, so if you are not intentionally cultivating them, they will naturally decline and deteriorate. That’s the reason why you have to work at maintaining and developing them.

The same is true in organizations, which is significant for your leadership. They don’t remain static, but, rather, age and time bring change. Therefore you have to be intentional about how you navigate it. Some things need regular maintenance, like an oil change. Some things have become worn down and need to be refreshed, like a tuneup for your car. Some things need to be updated or replaced because they’ve worn out or are broken down, like when I had to replace the heating element in my dryer because it was no longer working effectively. Regardless, you cannot ignore it or do nothing. If you are not taking steps to address it, things will break down, and the damage and cost will be much more significant and more difficult to repair.

That’s the lesson on leadership from this little thing in life, from hearing myself groan as I stood up. Wear and tear happens over time, which leads to deterioration. It is necessary for you to be intentional about maintaining and cultivating people, relationships, and your organization in order to navigate change with progress and growth and to maintain health. Remember, your organization either develops or declines, in part, based on how you take care of it. Age and time catches up to everyone, so be intentional about how you manage it.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us something about responding to crises.

Here is the link to the podcast.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us something about responding to crises.

We had a great lesson in this when a UPS driver delivered a package to our house in the middle of the day. When he left it at the front door, he rang the doorbell. My two-year-old and five-year-old grandchildren were in the house, and when the doorbell rang, three things immediately happened: the dog barked loudly, one grandchild ran to our room and dove on the bed and under the covers, while the other one ran yelling to the front door. My wife jokingly commented that we have one who runs away from danger and one who runs toward it!

I can also remember in my first experience as a head of school (one that was in partnership with a church), when I would meet with the church leaders every week as part of the leadership team. Over time, when we would discuss issues that we would face or items that would require a decision, a pattern began to emerge, which was that one of the pastors would immediately jump to his answer, and then talk it through out loud, and often by the end of his conversation, he was at a different place than he was at the beginning. The other two pastors would jump in after a little bit and start to dialogue back-and-forth. I would be thinking and processing about the issue, and listening to what everyone else was saying, but without speaking, and when they were all done, I would provide my input. One of them was always the first one to speak, I was always the last one to speak, and the others were somewhere in between. Each approach had its benefits, but each also had its shortcomings.

In the same way, we all have different responses to crises and circumstances, and our response is often dependent on our leadership style, our personal characteristics, the current context, and our past experience. The end result is that a crisis comes or a decision needs to be made, and we respond based on that combination of things, which may be different than the way someone else might respond. However you respond, though, you need to make sure it is done on purpose, for a purpose. For that to happen, you need to do two things:

  1. Understand your natural response. You may run away from danger to keep yourself and others safe, or you may run toward danger to try to intervene. You may have an immediate response that happens without thinking, or you may take a little bit of time to analyze and decide the best response. Regardless, understand what your ingrained and learned response is likely to be, so that you will know how you automatically respond when a crisis hits or a decision needs to be made.
  2. Prepare a good response. Now that you understand your own tendency, determine when your natural response is going to be the best action to take so that you are prepared and can feel confident with that response when it is needed. Then determine when a different response might be needed, and decide what you need to do in advance to be ready, which may likely involve a predetermined written plan and the involvement of others who respond differently than you.

That’s the lesson on leadership from this little thing in life, from watching two opposite reactions from my grandchildren to a doorbell ring. Know what you are going to do without thinking, and know when that will be the best response. But also know when you will need a different response, and prepare for it. Doing this can help prevent you from “leaping without looking” when you need to slow down, and from paralyzed inaction when you need to speed up. One way of responding isn’t necessarily going to always be the best way, so if you want to be prepared for crises and decisions, know yourself and make a plan.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the importance of the gift of Jesus.

Here is the link to the podcast.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the importance of the gift of Jesus.

I have talked about traditions that have been a regular part of Christmas for my family, and one of those traditions has been a movie that my wife and I watch every year. Every Christmas season, we love to watch “Christmas with the Kranks,” with Tim Allen and Jamie Lee Curtis. I don’t remember when we started watching it, but I do remember that the first time we watched it, we connected with the characters. The way that they interacted with each other and how they responded to circumstances reminded us of ourselves, and we enjoyed the movie so much that we made it a tradition.

So, of course, during this most recent Christmas, we watched the movie again. I need to warn you that what I am about to say is a spoiler alert, but the movie came out a little over 20 years ago, so you’ve had plenty of time to watch it. Near the end of the movie, as they finally came to terms with the realization of the value of friends and family during Christmas, and gave up the plans that they had made to be home with her daughter, Luther (played by Tim Allen) made a significant decision. He walked across the road to his neighbor, with whom he had had frequent conflict, and gave him the trip that he and his wife had been planning to take, with all the tickets and reservations information. When the neighbor protested, Luther said, “It’s a sincere gift, no strings attached.”

This line in the movie is so appropriate for the true meaning of Christmas. God came to earth in the form of His Son, Jesus Christ, born as a baby in a manger. The whole plan and purpose that God had for this was for Jesus to become the only possible sacrifice that could pay for our sins, so that our relationship with God could be restored by placing our faith in the work of Jesus for our salvation. And this salvation that is offered by God, through Jesus, is “a sincere gift, no strings attached.”

Now that Christmas is over, and you think about the time that you had with your friends and family, or the Christmas presents you gave or received, or the celebrations you enjoyed, I hope and pray that you also take time to think about this. Jesus offers the gift of salvation, and it’s yours to accept with no strings attached. There is nothing that you need to do – or even that you can do – to earn your way into God‘s presence. Jesus paid that price, and therefore, all that is necessary for you to do is to accept the gift of salvation that Jesus offers. If you have never accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior, I pray that you would take that step today.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the value of using your imagination.

Here is the link to the podcast.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the value of using your imagination.

My toddler granddaughter loves to play doctor. She has a toy medical bag with all the necessary equipment that a doctor might use, and often likes to pretend that one of her dolls (or one of her family members) is sick or injured, and she needs to help them get better. She will pull different tools out of the bag so that she can check everything and provide the right treatment, then pronounce that the injured toy, or person, is all better.

In one particular instance, she saw that I had a scrape on one of my knuckles and exclaimed, “Oh no, it hurts!” So, she had me lie down on the floor so she could treat me, and this treatment included a full physical. She checked my blood pressure, tapped my knees with a hammer to check my reflexes, looked in my ears and nose and throat, put a Band-Aid on my knuckle, and listened to my heart with her toy stethoscope. As she was “listening” to my heart, she started, saying, “thump, thump, thump,” but then that changed to “squeak, squeak, squeak.” She told me I had a mouse in my heart, and she had to chase the mouse out of me, so she got some cheese for the mouse to follow.

I am grateful that she is developing the character trait of empathy, but that’s not the primary thing I want to point out with this illustration. What I want to emphasize is the imagination that was at work, on two different levels. First was the role-play as she was pretending to be a doctor. She was doing the things that she imagined a doctor would do, and trying to put herself into that role. And she was doing it with sincerity and enthusiasm. Beyond that, she was also thinking outside of the normal by bringing a mouse problem into the checkup.

Those are two things that we ought to be doing in the leadership of our organizations. First, is that we ought to role-play. I don’t mean by that that we need to pretend to be someone we are not, but rather that we put ourselves in other people’s shoes and try to see things from their perspective. People have different experiences and perspectives, and it is beneficial for us to understand that because that will help us have a better picture of the circumstances, issues, and needs. Second, we ought to explore different ways of thinking about things. It’s easy for us, without realizing it, to see things the way that we always have, through the lens that we have always used. But removing that lens and looking at things from a different angle, even one that might not make sense, can change our perspective and our options.

And that’s the lesson on leadership from this little thing in life, from this story of my granddaughter, checking my heart with her toy stethoscope, and hearing a mouse. Too often, our vision is limited because we’re not seeing things from another perspective, and we do what we’ve always done without thinking differently. Sometimes, we need to set aside our normal thought process, see from someone else’s point of view, and be willing to use some imagination and think creatively. In order to grow both personally and organizationally (and, in some cases, find your way past a difficult challenge), you need to be ready and willing to use your imagination.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the value of serving quietly.

Here is the link to the podcast.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the value of serving quietly.

In my first school leadership role, we had built a new school building that also had shared use with the church that owned the school. Within a few months, teachers were communicating a frustration with me about having to clean up their classrooms every Monday morning, needing to put all the desks back in order, which was taking away from their time to prepare for the start of the week. I encouraged the teachers to have a servant’s heart in response to this situation, but I also passed on their frustration to the church leadership, and asked if we could give the Sunday school teachers some instruction on how to put the rooms back in order when they were done with the children’s classes on Sunday. It seemed like a simple request to me, so the reply I received was unexpected. I was informed that the building was owned by the church, that many of the church members had funded it, and that they were volunteers, so they needed to be able to use the room how they wanted to on Sundays without being obligated to extra work, and the teachers could straighten the rooms up on Monday mornings.

This put me in the middle of a dilemma (which I eventually learned was not an uncommon occurrence in school leadership). The church leadership, and by extension, the Sunday school teaching volunteers, did not see the opportunity they had to be able to serve the school teachers, and the teachers did not see the opportunity to serve children coming to church. Instead, each was focused on their own needs. I was in the middle, with the responsibility of resolving this conflict well.

So, my wife and I started taking the kids to the grocery store after church on Sunday to get a loaf of French bread, some deli meat and cheese, and chips, and then head back to the church. By the time we got there, everyone would be gone, and we would sit in the school cafeteria and have lunch together. Then, along with our two kids who were in elementary school at the time, we would set up all the classes for school the next day. Neither side knew we were the ones going through the building every Sunday afternoon to make sure all the desks were arranged, and that everything was in order.

To this day, my children, who are adults, still talk about that time as a great family memory. They remember having French bread sandwiches and serving together as a family, and finding joy in knowing that we were meeting a need, and no one knew that it was us. In their eyes, it was a secret mission that took care of people, and they had the joy of knowing that teachers would walk into their classrooms at the start of the week with everything ready but without knowing my kids had made sure it was so. They also remember the joy that came because we were serving together and making it a valuable time for our family.

These are wonderful lessons on leadership from this little thing in life, from Sunday afternoons with my children quietly putting classrooms back in order. First, they highlight not just the value of serving the needs of others, but the importance of doing it for the right reason. You serve not for your own praise or glory, but for the well-being of others. Second, they highlight the heart and attitude that should be present in you. If you have the right attitude, you get to experience the joy of being a blessing, especially knowing that your honor should come from God and not from others. So I encourage you to pursue this mindset. If you are a leader, you are also a servant. Look for opportunities to serve, but do it quietly, and experience the joy of seeing the blessing it is for those who experience the results of what you have done.